Why are women are attracted to 'Bad Boys'

Fantasies will forever be evergreen for both women and men. We all used to have those actors, actresses we used to fantasize about having mind blowing sex with LOL. I remember back then in secondary school when a question was asked, which actor would you want to be left alone with in a deserted Island? There was so much response, some said Denzel Washington, Brad Pitt, Richard Mofe Damijo, Tom Cruise, Antonio Banderas - that time these were the sexiest men in the world.

This goes for chicks, when I hear a man say “that girl is so frigid” I say there is no frigid girl. A frigid girl can be seduced by the most skillful man, she can turn from being a good girl to being a wanton woman overnight. Nigerian women have come of age and we are starting to enjoy sex, not only doing it for child bearing sake. 

It’s not only men who feel they are tired of having just one woman in their bed year in year out; it also goes same for women. Some are tired of the same banana, so times have really changed. Gone are the days when a man just want to penetrate a woman just to get his release and not be concerned about the needs of his women. If she meets a man who treats her like queen she is gone.

Tobi is a very pretty chick, in her late 20s most guys in her area really are all talking who is going to take the prize of her virginity, because guys have tried using all tactics - the normal wanting to take her to the cinema or an eatery and then back to their house to bang. This really keeps making Tobi get irritated and she backs off. How can a man want to have sex with a lady who wants to be made passionate love to? What an irony?

Tobi meet Mofe at an art exhibition and Mofe just came from Canada to Nigeria for a visit, Mofe is in his early 30s and the first time he set his eyes on Tobi he instantly fall in love with her, as far as knowing she was the one he wanted to spend the rest of his life with, he was so attracted to her, actually he lived not far from Tobi’s co-worker’s place that’s his family house. So when Tobi comes visiting he sees her, Mofe knows how to treat a woman right he has lived in Canada since high school, so firstly he found out more about Tobi before he made his move.

Tobi has always wanted her first to be a man who did things differently, the first time Tobi saw him, her heart almost stopped the way he stared at her, she has never been stared at like that. He asked her Questions no man has ever asked her, took her to the beach, read Poems to her and the day he finally invited her to his house, Tobi didn’t hesitate, he was given an apartment for his time in Naija, he already had candle light dinner, soft blues she didn’t even know when she gave herself wholeheartedly forgetting it was her first time, in fact she became addicted to Mofe that the sexual positions and styles she did with Mofe she never imagined she would, she cried when Mofe went back to Canada in which she later joined him, they both escape sometimes to Panama or Spain, do crazy things together. Tobi became a sex freak thanks to her hubby Mofe. No woman can resist the trill of a mysterious man in bed, it’s just when you haven’t meet that man that sparks that fire it remains dormant.

A brother in church told me his late wife used to initiate sex, that they make out on the floor in the living room, kitchen, even on the table he used to look at her as if am sure this woman is promiscuous, he said now she is late, he is lonely he so missed that, he is looking forward to meeting a woman with such a passionate nature I just grinned.

When a woman inhibits herself its because she doesn’t trust the man she is with even if it’s her husband, she can’t give her 100 percent and at the end will be dissatisfied with sex and long for an imaginary lover to swept her off her feet, because the man in her life isn’t sensitive to notice.

Women want to be touched in a kind of way and be made love to in a kind of way to be completely whole when a man is able to do that that man is her king.

We fantasize because we believe there is this man out there that would make love to us like the men in Mills and Boom do it.

Telemundo and Eva Channel or the way a man looks at us, like the way the Indian men look at their women in Zee world. We want the thrill of a mysterious man - be it husband, boyfriend, stranger, friends with benefits, we just want to be touched in a way and held in a way it makes us feel special.